Why can’t I just relax?

Why do we have to learn how to relax? Shouldn’t that be  natural? Are we so focused on the work  or worse yet what others will think?

So often we talk about self care; making sure we are doing it.  Like the oxygen mask going on ourselves first, so too, we need self care to be better for us and others. An assignment i gave one of my clients was take a 30 minute walk outside. it made a difference. Walking my dog in the morning helps me feel more focused to start work.  What are you doing?

Relaxation and self care need to be a part of your routine not an occasional add on, as there are so many benefits.

1. Stress reduction: Relaxation techniques such as deep breathing, meditation, or progressive muscle relaxation can help lower stress levels by activating the body’s relaxation response, which  helps  lower blood pressure.  Chronic stress can have detrimental effects on both physical and mental health. It has been linked to numerous health problems, including heart disease, digestive issues, and weakened immune function. Learning to relax can help mitigate the harmful effects of stress on the body, leading to better overall physical health and resilience. so finding ways to relax is crucial for managing stress effectively.
2. Improved mental health: Relaxation techniques can help alleviate symptoms of anxiety, depression, and other mental health conditions. By promoting a sense of calm and reducing negative thoughts and feelings, relaxation can contribute to better emotional balance and resilience.
3. Better sleep: Relaxing before bedtime can help prepare your body and mind for sleep, leading to improved sleep quality and duration. Techniques such as mindfulness meditation or gentle stretching can help quiet the mind and promote relaxation conducive to falling asleep more easily.
4. Increased productivity and focus: Taking regular breaks to relax and recharge can actually enhance productivity and concentration. By allowing your mind and body to rest periodically, you can return to tasks feeling refreshed and better able to focus on the task at hand.
5. Improved relationships: Being able to relax and manage stress effectively can positively impact your relationships with others. When you’re less stressed and more relaxed, you’re likely to be more patient, empathetic, and present in your interactions with loved ones.

Incorporating relaxation techniques into your daily routine can help you lead a more balanced, fulfilling life.

1. Physical relaxation: This involves releasing tension from the muscles throughout your body. Techniques such as progressive muscle relaxation, gentle stretching, or taking a warm bath can help promote physical relaxation.
2. Mental relaxation: Mental relaxation involves quieting the mind and letting go of racing thoughts and worries. Practices like meditation, deep breathing exercises, or visualization can help calm the mind and promote mental relaxation.
3. Emotional relaxation: Emotional relaxation involves letting go of negative emotions such as anxiety, anger, or sadness. Engaging in activities you enjoy, spending time with loved ones, or practicing self-care can help promote emotional relaxation and well-being.
4. Environmental relaxation: Creating a relaxing environment can also contribute to overall relaxation. This may involve reducing noise and distractions, surrounding yourself with soothing sights and sounds, or spending time in nature.

1. Chronic stress: Constant busyness or an inability to relax can be a sign of chronic stress. When you’re under a lot of stress, your body may stay in a heightened state of alertness, making it difficult to unwind and relax.
2. Perfectionism: Some people feel the need to constantly be doing something because they have high standards for themselves and fear falling short of expectations. This perfectionistic mindset can make it challenging to simply relax and enjoy downtime without feeling guilty or restless.
3. Anxiety: Anxiety can manifest as a constant feeling of restlessness or the need to stay busy to distract oneself from anxious thoughts and feelings. This can make it difficult to relax and be present in the moment.
4. Workaholic: For some individuals, an inability to relax may stem from a compulsive need to work or be productive at all times. This can lead to burnout and negatively impact both physical and mental health.
5. Cultural or societal influences: In some cultures or environments, there may be pressure to constantly be productive or busy, leading individuals to feel guilty or anxious when they’re not actively doing something.

If you find it difficult to relax and just be idle, it’s important to consider the underlying reasons behind this behavior and address any potential issues contributing to it. This might involve setting boundaries around work and personal time, seeking support from a therapist or counselor, or making lifestyle changes to reduce stress and create more balance in your life. Learning to prioritize self-care and allowing yourself time to rest and recharge is essential for overall well-being.