As you know I follow Peter Shankman and receive his emails. He has written much about feeling valued as a customer, and employee, as a person. The analogy about water in the previous blog shows the value depends on the environment.
Here’s another example. A father said to his daughter “You have graduated with honors, here is a Jeep I bought many years ago. It is pretty old now. But before I give it to you, take it to the used car lot downtown and tell them I want to sell it and see how much they offer you for it.” The daughter went to the used car lot, returned to her father and said, “They offered me $1,000 because the said it looks pretty worn out.”
The father said, now “Take it to the pawn shop.” The daughter went to the pawn shop, returned to her father and said,”The pawn shop offered only $100 because it is an old Jeep.” The father asked his daughter to go to a Jeep club now and show them the Jeep. The daughter then took the Jeep to the club, returned and told her father,” Some people in the club offered $100,000 for it because “it’s an iconic Jeep and sought by many collectors.”
Now the father said this to his daughter, “The right place values you the right way,” If you are not valued, do not be angry, it means you are in the wrong place. Those who know your value are those who appreciate you……Never stay in a place where no one sees your value.
What is your worth? What is your value in the workplace? Do they appreciate you and what you do? If not why are you there? This is one of the reasons for the past great resignation or quiet quitting; people don’t feel valued for what they contribute. There is no career path for growth, or coaching/mentoring to help improve performance. They may be tired of the commute. They are not getting benefits especially health or retirement.For some there is an element of fear because of the money. Many of my clients are questioning if they are in the right place, should they leave and the bigger question is where do they really belong.
What is your value to family, friends, relationships? This is hard. Too many of us have surrounded ourselves with people who may be toxic to our happiness. They aren’t bad people they just aren’t right for us. I really learned this lesson after my divorce and before meeting my current husband. I remember dating a very nice man and after a while when i asked myself if I wanted to spend time with him or stay home and home won it was time to move on. Then there are relatives who have different interests and beliefs. That doesn’t make them bad or you bad for not wanting to spend time with them. It means you are valuing your worth and your time. You are setting boundaries based on you and what you want
People come into our lives for a reason season or lifetime. We learn from the relationships and if our self worth is not valued it is time to move on.Barbra Streisand recorded a song, ” Have i stayed too long at the fair?” Where are you staying too long?
Sometimes when i hear people complain about how they are being treated I remember that we teach people how to treat us and what we accept to “win” them. If we don’t like how they treat us we need to make changes about what we will or won’t tolerate.
Know how valuable and important you are. Know that you make a difference.In the other blog in the newletter I mention the Authentic Alignment Audit designed to help you identify where your strengths, values, purpose, and daily choices are working together—and where they’re working against you. After taking this and using a strength assessment to support the alignment I can assist to create practical, realistic steps that move you from simply knowing your WHY to living it every day.
It’s time to honor who and what you are
I would love to hear your comments about how you are going to show yourself your worth.